…higher than the ceiling.

Hey guess what?


The good news – I do not have to be on insulin, even though I have to take oral meds.

The bad news – holy fuck I miss sugar.

The good news – my HgA1C went from 11.4 in May to 7.2 in July (meaning my average blood sugar dropped from 283 to 150 in 2 months).

The bad news – no seriously have you seen that Speculoos Cookie Core Ben & Jerry’s?

The good news – I’ve lost ~50 lbs from my highest weight.

The bad news – that number happened 3 weeks ago and it hasn’t changed. Perhaps that’s because work has been very stressful and even though I haven’t given in to my urge to eat my way through Hershey’s entire inventory I have drowned my sorrows in various other foods, like honey roasted macadamia nuts. Also, because I have been working a lot of overtime, I have developed a serious Starbucks problem (as has the rest of the office). At least I’m getting them sugar-free, right?

In other news, apparently being diagnosed with the Beetus is stressful, because my hair is falling out. I had two doctors test my thyroid, and they’re like, nope, you’re fine. REALLY you’re fine. Have you tried vitamins? Yes? Well, try some more, and we’ll send you to a dermatologist who will also confirm that you’re fine. PS, you need to get out more, you have a Vitamin D deficiency. The dermatologist was like “yep, stress. I promise. It’ll be better in a few months.” That’s ASSUMING I have any hair left and also assuming I can afford enough Drano to keep my shower drain unclogged.

Further news, my back is not making me very happy right now either. You would *think* that since I had a spinal cord stimulator installed a year ago, and that because I’ve been exercising and have lost weight, that my back would be awesome. Not so much. Even though the radicular pain from the jacked-up discs is better, I still have inflammation at the S-I joint…which makes it hurt to sit for any length of time, even in my fancy Tempurpedic chair. Basically, this inflammation can really only be treated by burning the nerves with an electrified needle. It’s about as much fun as you would imagine, as the whole “conscious sedation” thing doesn’t work so well on me. Dear body, why can’t you metabolize french fries fast, instead of Versed? I had this done again in July. It worked on one side, but the other side is still being an asshead. So I’ve had to take painkillers again, and while they help with the hurting part, I’m not sure it’s worth it to not poop for weeks. (I’m just being honest. My doctor laughed when I said this, but agreed with me. IT’S A MEDICAL FACT. Why no, I don’t have a filter.)

Fuck you, hair.

Fuck you, S-I joint.

Also fuck you, genetics.

I suppose I have started some healthier habits. I get in my 10K steps every day. I really have been trying very hard not to eat a ton of refined sugar. I go to bed at a reasonable hour.

God, I’m so fucking boring.

Song of the Day: “Diane Young” – Vampire Weekend
Today’s Time Waster: You know you’ve missed cat videos more than my lame blog entries.
What I’m Craving: I think that has been made abundantly clear.


She is smiling alone.

I guess it’s been a while. Things have been kind of crazy. My 83-year-old gramma was not doing well, so I went to Michigan to visit her. Of course, the phone call from my mom sounded like it was the end, but by the time I got there, she was getting back in fighting form. She’s still not doing great, but she’s back to being an asshole to everyone, which for her means she’s feeling better. She’s driving my mom and my aunt nuts, and she’s being bitchy. The thing is, she has never been like that to me, ever. Gramma’s was my safe house. Some of my best childhood memories are from staying with her and my grampa. She let me do whatever I wanted, like stay up all night to watch Charles & Diana get married and eat ice cream for breakfast.

Seeing her was hard. Since she lives so far away, it’s been tough for me to get the time off work to go visit, and when I was unemployed, I didn’t really have the money. I knew she wasn’t well, but the weirdest thing was seeing her with her natural gray hair. Since I’ve been alive, her hair has always been a platinum blonde football helmet.

Anyway, the day I got on the plane, I had another stupid epidural steroid injection, which sadly, hasn’t helped. The doctor said Plan B is not necessarily surgery…there’s a procedure they can try where they basically implant little electrical contacts and wires and connect them to the nerves, and then implant a little device that you can control with a remote. The current is suppose to alleviate the pain. We’ll see. I’m really tired of dealing with this shit. The doctor did, of course, mention weight loss, but was cool about it…he acknowledged it would be hard to work out if you were in constant pain. I’ve been trying to eat a little better, but stress is a hungry, hungry hippo. She especially enjoys Russell Stover Coconut Cream Eggs and McDonald’s french fries, but occasionally wants something else, like nachos.

Oh and also, work got fucked up last week…I had gotten my friend a job there, and they fired her for what appears to be no reason. I think the decision may have been financially based, which worries me. I was also worried about my own job security, because I’ve had enough drama, and while by all reports everyone wants me around, still. The office manager assured me that no, no, everything’s fine, in fact you’re getting a raise….

Still do not trust them. I got a bonus right before I got shitcanned last February. Guess I’ll just wait and see what happens, but keep my eye open for anything that looks interesting. That’s about all I can do, really.

Enough rambling. Let’s move on:

It is time again for Friend Makin’ Monday. If you have a blog, I would like to invite you to answer the questions as well. Leave me a comment here, so I know you are playing. Then you can also leave a comment over at Losing Weight and Having Fun, so other folks can check out your answers as well. It is a fun way to connect to other bloggers.

1. Have you ever had a reoccurring dream? What was it?

I have a couple, and they’re both nightmares. In one, I am competing in an obstacle course, and the rules are much like those in the book “The Long Walk” by Stephen King (SPOILER ALERT)…if you drop out, you die. When I have this one, I’m usually under a LOT of stress, and the obstacle course gets more horrible night after night. Like the first night it might be swimming across a pool, by night #3 it’s swimming across a pool full of sharks. The second one is about school…I think high school. I’m in this giant, rambling school building comprised of almost every school building I’ve ever been in (since I competed in speech tournaments in high school adn college, this is a LOT of school buildings)–everything from crumbling, gothic looking brick to the 70’s and 80’s super-streamlined office-cubicle like hallways. I can’t remember my locker combination, I can’t find any of my classrooms, and when I do find them, it’s for a class I have forgotten to attend all semester.

2. What was the weirdest food you’ve ever eaten?

Hm. I’ve eaten octopus and squid, many kinds of seafood in a shell, eel, and alligator. I don’t know. I’ve pretty much sampled everything on a giant Chinese buffet. Does that count? (Hey, I’m picky.)

3. Can you comfortably eat in a restaurant by yourself? Go to movie?

Both. I don’t mind eating out alone as long as I have a book. Sometimes it’s very relaxing. I actually just did this last week. I was planning to meet some friends for some local activity, but they couldn’t meet till like 6:30 and I get off work at 5. So I went and had some delicious seafood and a $5 hurricane.

4. What would you leave in your will for the person you care about the most?

I’m sure I’ll be destitute and alone, so there will be nothing to leave.

5. Would you rather…Go without television or fast food for the rest of your life?

TV (I mean, I can still watch movies, right?). Sometimes my hormones get hungry for french fries, and that shit stinks up the house. Also, what the hell else are you supposed to eat after a night out besides Taco Bell?

6. What was the best thing that happened to you this past week?

One of my BFF’s turned 50, and we went out to celebrate. She showed up trashed. Someone made the mistake of giving her a wand with a star and streamers, and she bonked everyone on the head with it all night. Even though the bar DJ was mostly lame (if you follow me on Twitter, I posted a few updates), the night out was fun.

7. List the food items you take at a salad bar.

Are we talking a Golden Corral salad bar, or just a puny old-school steakhouse one? Spinach (if available, or if not romaine lettuce), hard-boiled eggs, mushrooms, carrots, cheese, bacon bits, ranch dressing, and CROUTONS. Lots and lots of croutons.

8. If you were in the “Miss America” talent competition, what would your talent be? (Note: both guys & gals have to answer this question)

I would sing something totally cheesy like “Memory” from Cats. (Shit. I just realized I mentioned this song in my last post. Well, fuck it. I would say “Defying Gravity” but I can’t hit that note anymore. Maybe “You’ll Never Walk Alone” from Carousel, or “Goodnight My Someone” from The Music Man.)

9. What do you keep in the trunk of your car?

Oh god. There’s actually not much in mine right now except for the plastic protector things you’re supposed to use on the convertible if you leave the top down. But I don’t ever leave it down when it’s parked, so I’m debating tossing those fuckers. Otherwise, there are a few random things…maybe a broken umbrella, a stuffed triceratops, and a couple mostly empty bottles of car products (like transmission fluid and antifreeze). Fortunately, I just cleaned it out a few months ago. Before that, don’t even ask. I’ve had my car for 12 years. Things end up there.

10. How many rings before you answer the phone?

Not very many. If I plan to answer, it’s usually by the second ring (unless it’s buried in my purse and I don’t hear it). If I don’t, I just send it to voicemail. At work, if I get stuck with phone duty, I answer after the first ring. The phone ringing annoys the living FUCK out of me. I used to work in an office where I was supposed to be “backup” on phones, but the chick whose job it was didn’t answer till like the 3rd ring, which drove me insane. I ended up answering it a lot because it interrupted my work just as much to glare at her to answer the phone than it did to just answer it. Plus, at that job, it was for me a lot of the time, anyway, because my boss was never there and it was family law and those clients are the worst about calling all day. This is where I learned never, ever to answer the phone after 5 on a Friday, because it was never anything you could fix but they wanted to TALK about it for an hour.

Song of the Day: “A Beautiful Mess” – Jason Mraz
Today’s Time Waster: Classic album covers in Google street view.
What I’m Craving: Something fried.

I died a hundred times

So here it is again – the loneliest hour.  The hour where you fear you will not see the dawn, but the hour that you know when you do see it with its fingers plucking off your blankets one by one, and its nails scratching at your tired eyes and its light creeping through the cracks in the curtain, where “the sun will come out tomorrow” is a threat from a song that should be a promise, when the real song in your head is the one from that musical about felines.  The one song in the production that is sad.  The one song that represents someone’s one chance at living the life she wants to lead.   The one who yearns to stay up until she rises with the sun.

I am still waiting for daylight that I don’t dread.  Waiting to not be the most alive when everyone else is the most asleep, wanting to believe that sleep really does have the answers, wanting to believe that the long, slow, slide into a nervous breakdown can be stopped before you go flying off the end headfirst and your face hits the mulch chips and there are splinters, so many splinters, and they will leave scars.  

The song running through my head tonight is not the hopeful notes of someone who believes that tomorrow will be better.  Speaking of which, Hollywood, QUIT RUINING MY CHILDHOOD WITH YOUR BAD REMAKES.  Quevenzhane Wallace?  She’s cute.  That’s plausible.  But Cameron Diaz? NO NO NO GOD NO MAKE. IT. STOP.  It’s like the difference between Gene Wilder as Willy Wonka and Johnny Depp.  What makes the neurosis scary is not just flat out crazy or someone playacting at meanness.  It’s the glimpses of not-crazy, the glimpses that life could have been different, that the potential for something was there and that’s what is trying to be killed with isolation or alcohol: the good things, not the bad ones.  The bad ones are easier to believe.  The bad thoughts are the ones that leave the deepest scars.  The people that have fucked up my head the most are the ones that I thought would be the most helpful, starting with my dad and ending…well, I don’t know.  I feel so old and so dead but some of my family members, even the ones with the worst habits, have lived a very, very long time.  I could die tomorrow, I could die in a year, or ten or fifty, and I sometimes wonder if this uncertainty about everything is what fuels my darkest thoughts.  I feel like my brain almost would rather NOT know the future, it would rather decide its own future. Or lack of one.  The song in my head tonight is the alternate lyrics of the sad song in a mostly happy, disjointed, musical:

Memory, turn your face to the moonlight
Let your memory lead you
Open up, enter in
If you find there the meaning of what happiness is
Then a new life will begin

Memory, all alone in the moonlight
I can smile at the old days
I was beautiful then
I remember the time I knew what happiness was
Let the memory live again

*   *  *

Sunlight, through the trees in summer
Endless masquerading
Like a flower as the dawn is breaking
The memory is fading

I am tired of these thoughts, these dark and putrid pockets in my head that are timed to open just as they really need to be closing.  

I remember singing this song in voice lessons in high school, and my voice teacher asking me why I identified with the lyrics – “I can smile at the old days, I was beautiful then” – when I wasn’t even 18.  And I don’t remember if I told her why.  But I have always had the dark side, the side that looks back at the pictures in junior high when maybe I really wasn’t nearly as fat as I thought I was, maybe I could have been thinner, prettier, more confident, more popular, more whatever.  And even at 16, I remember thinking it was too late for me to be beautiful.

Maybe I’m just weird because I remember the bad things in my life so much more than the good.  I can relive every awkward or painful moment, every uncomfortable silence, every time the perfect comeback entered my head after the tears had started to fall, every kiss from every man that never really meant it, not the way I did, every harsh word about my hair or my voice or my face or my body or my mind or my talent or my freckles.  And those are the memories on repeat tonight and every night, the ones that start to creep in around the time I drive home from the place where I have to put on my normal face and that have gathered up a full head of steam by the time I brush my teeth or try to find a book to read.

I don’t know how to talk anymore.

I don’t know how to really connect anymore.  I am spending so much energy trying to hold the core together that I can’t pay attention to the little pieces that are flying off in the wind, the happy things that blow away one at a time.  I feel like what was once a girl with a little hope for a sunrise is now pretty sure that not only will the sun be hidden behind a cloud forever, that she can scream and scream and scream but everyone stopped listening a long time ago because the scream was one long, lonely cry of wolf.

People have tried to save me, but the wolf blocks the path.  Sometimes she sleeps, and people can get closer.   But then she wakes up in a bundle of snarling teeth and flying fur and no matter how much anyone wants to save the girl, they have to save themselves first.  Put their masks on before assisting the passenger who needs it.

Please let the magic lamp work.  Please reset my clock so I don’t have to go find some night job or move across the world (and I wonder, would that work?  Moving somewhere halfway around the planet so my clock is on the right schedule?).

Please.  The cabin is losing pressure and there’s not much air left.  The wolf has guarded her prey for a long time and fed on the scraps the people fed her in an attempt to distract her from her quarry, but scraps are not enough anymore.

Song of the Day:   “Mad World” – Tears for Fears

Today’s Time Waster:   Melodramatic bursts of self-awareness.

What I’m Craving:  Just for a little while, to be something that the world considers normal, so that being weird can be a choice rather than an absolute.

Talk of Circadian Rhythms…

I’m kind of sorry I used lyrics from this song already for a title, because I don’t like repeats (most of my titles are song lyrics. Not all. But most. If you’re bored, try to identify them without Googling. Of course you’re bored, you’re reading this!).
So, as many of my past entries have made abundantly clear, I have persistent insomnia. Not just a little, a lot. I’ve been this way since I was a wee little tot (a comment in my baby book reads “Kelly always wants to play when we’re ready to go to bed”), and I’ve never shaken it. I am a vampire bat, a night owl, whatever.  The last few years, though, it’s gotten progressively worse. I’ve tried just about all the prescription and non-prescription sleep aids available (I almost needed more lines to write them down on the questionnaire from the sleep specialist, and I was writing SMALL). I have tried bed being ONLY FOR TEH SLEEPING (no reading blah blah blah GOD get your minds out of the gutter), I’ve tried hot tea (gag), hot milk (ok, not really, the thought of drinking milk at all and especially warm makes me throw up in my mouth a little), beer, wine, hard liquor, weed, painkillers, benzodiazepines, decongestants, antihistamines, old-school antidepressants, natural remedies, dark, light, pets, no pets, it doesn’t fucking matter. All that changes is (a) what room of the house I stay awake in and (b) level of morning hangover.

I had a sleep study. The only good thing about it was that it was scheduled the week we had all the stupid carpet fans and it was a night of quiet. So at least I didn’t need noise-canceling headphones to hear myself think too much. However, these sleep study people needed to get their shit together. Apparently, this is a $10K test.  Their deal with the insurance company means they write off about $8K. But they expect you to pay…UP FRONT…the remaining $2K because who has met their deductible by the beginning of February? Right. They break this news to me about 8 hours before I’m supposed to show up. I can’t remember if I actually said on the phone out loud “what do you expect me to do, just shit 2 grand?” I might have. Anyway, I had to call my dad and ask for help, which I fucking hate doing and which I especially hate doing when I really need it right then. Because no matter how much he says he is willing to help out with the medical bills, you can still hear the sphincter puckering when you say “hey I need money right now.” (My dad has plenty of money, because he was a stingy bastard while I was growing up. I think he’s only spending it now because he doesn’t want my stepmother to get any. They hate each other but he won’t get divorced because then he would have to pay her a lot. I guess the pre-nup vested or maybe I missed the part about he has to pay if it’s his idea. I mean, he left it sitting out in the open on his desk, of course I fucking read it. I was 19 at the time but I’d still do the same thing. I didn’t look for it, it was really just stuck in this pencil holder/light thingy on his desk with “PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT” in big letters at the top. But I digress.)

So I report to the sleep center at 8:15 p.m. One of the pieces of paper from them said 8:00 p.m. check in, one said 8:30, so I just showed up in the middle. In case anyone ever has to do this, yes, you can bring your own pillows and pajamas and whatever you want, really. (Well, maybe not a bong. I didn’t ask.)  I had to have it done at a hospital, because my insurance requires that an actual doctor be present and not just a tech. Ok, I don’t die in my sleep every night, so why the shit do I need a doctor on site? Ugh. The room was pretty tiny. It had cinderblock walls painted this gross pastel yellow, ugly non-matching sheets, flat-ass pillows (I was glad I brought a couple of mine), an ancient TV which may have really been a surveillance camera, and a nightstand mostly taken up by a CPAP machine and some other random medical equipment. The bed was ok, I guess, and they did manage to find at least one fluffier pillow. They adjusted the temperature to your liking, there was a bathroom outside the door, and it was super-dark with the lights out.

After I checked in, the tech explained what they would be doing, and then started hooking me up to about 80000 wires. There is one big wire coming out of your head, which they glue on there with some Vaseline-type goop that takes a LONG TIME to wash out. Then he starts with some peel-and-stick electrodes. I told him that I’m a little sensitive to adhesives (by which I mean welts and itching and the worst scar from having my gallbladder removed came from a bandaid covering one of the incisions), and asked if these were going to irritate my skin. My concern stemmed largely from the fact that he was gluing this shit to my FACE. He swore that no one ever had a bad reaction. I noticed irritation the next morning, but it wasn’t that bad. The oxygen sensor under my nose wouldn’t stay put. The wires kind of wrap around your head, and I was pretty sure it was going to be like being garroted, because they attach them to this power strip thing that they drape over the headboard. They also attach wires to your legs and arms and put some straps on either side of your boobs. I think I need a bra made out of those. After all this stuff is hooked all over you, they’re like, “Okay, now just go to sleep!”


I am here for insomnia and I am not in my own bed and there’s no kitty and I am seriously going to choke on these motherfucking wires.

It took me 158 minutes to fall asleep from the time they turned out the lights (which was around 10 p.m.). There is deliberately no clock, but I had my Kindle and my iPod and my phone. 158 minutes = almost 3 hours…and this is after I took an Ambien. Then apparently they said I quit breathing a few times and had almost no deep sleep and my oxygen saturation was low. I’m not entirely sure it’s as low as they proclaim, because those sensors were fucked up and not attached right. So I go into the clinic with the nurse practitioner to go over the results. I deliberately made an EARLY appointment. I ended up being a few minutes late (like 5) because I forgot that the building was past the second stoplight and drove around a few times looking for it. Then I’m sitting there. WAITING. And I mention to the receptionist that I said I’d make this appointment but only if I didn’t have to wait very long because I’ve missed enough work already.  I’m sure the nurse practitioner was mad about having to actually start her job on time. Then she starts with this “you need a CPAP (oxygen) mask” routine, and I start crying. First of all, there is not one thing attractive about the mask. It looks like Darth Vader has middle school orthodontic headgear. Second, I have to have everything JUST SO to even consider sleeping, which includes the pillows being in a certain order and the sheets tucked a certain way and no socks and almost no light and my favorite blanket, and even then it takes me hours to sleep, and she wants me to add some suffocating-looking robot mask to this? I explained to her that the reason I even HAD the study done in the first place was because I CANNOT GO TO FUCKING SLEEP AND FOUR HOURS ISN’T CUTTING IT ANYMORE.

Then they finally decide to refer me to an actual doctor.

The actual doctor was wonderful. He read (and even highlighted) the questionnaire I filled out (which was at least the third such document). He asked how long the problem had been going on (my whole life) and which one of my parents was the night owl (my dad, but the real one is my gramma – my mom’s mother – I loved going to visit her, she let me stay up all night watching Benny Hill and Charles and Diana and eating junk food). He said that what I have is a circadian rhythm disorder, and that unless I want to get a graveyard-shift job, I had to follow some steps.  Step One: Cut a hole in a box…kidding. He has prescribed a regimen that involves melatonin (which he says people mostly are doing it wrong…you need to take it 2 hours before bedtime, or you are fucking up your clock). I am supposed to take it at 8:30 pm (that’s SO EARLY), then no more bright lights until I go to bed.  Bright lights include the TV, my Kindle, the computer, overhead lights, etc. If I can’t dim the lights, I have to wear sunglasses at night. (So I can, so I can keep track of visions in my mind….ok fine he didn’t sing the song.) Then, when I get up, I either have to go outside for 30 minutes or use a special sun-light for 30 minutes. Regular overhead lights aren’t adequate. Allegedly, if I do this for a few months (!!!), I will be able to reset my internal clock.

I really hope he’s right. I mean, I’m ok with midnight to 6:45. I’m just not functioning well with 2:45 to 6:45. My happy light and melatonin and Kindle Paperwhite arrive tomorrow. So fingers crossed that this is the last midnight-not-a-sound-from-the-pavement entry for a while.

PS – Maybe I don’t really need the Kindle Paperwhite but I like new gadgets.

PPS – Maybe I also ordered some shoes. I’m just REPLACING the ones that the broken pipe ruined. PINKY SWEARS.

PPPS – Amazon is pissing me off lately, or maybe it’s UPS, but my two-day-shipped replacement boots were supposed to be here last Wednesday and finally arrived today. Weather delays my ass.

Song of the Day: “Bravado” – Lorde
Today’s Time Waster: Need to post this on the fridge or something.
What I’m Craving: Marshmallow Peeps. I have only eaten ONE package of green bunnies. I believe this shows remarkable self control and also does not mention the micro Reese’s cups. Feelings are hungry. Insomnia is hungry. Depression wants to live at Golden Corral with its mouth under the chocolate fountain.

I’m just like financial statements – I show up quarterly.

So I was leaving a comment for Hailey, and then I realized that I should probably update more often than quarterly, but seriously, it’s all been so awful and I’m tired of hearing myself talk about it. To sum up: Christmas = Xanax; I should not be allowed outside after three months of pain management for my back because I will fall down and undo all of it and it will actually hurt worse than it did four months ago; one should never trust little baby maintenance dudes about what is wrong with one’s plumbing because they will lie and then your pipe will freeze and burst and flood your apartment and part of the neighbors and the damage will be JUST ENOUGH to cover the deductible on your renter’s insurance and also they give you FIVE — no, SIX — industrial carpet fans in an 800 square foot apartment and it’s like living in a goddamn jet engine for a week. /facepalm

That about sums it up.

Seriously though. Inches of water; cat missing; clothes on the floor because I needed to do laundry and/or I’m just messy, at least 15 loads of laundry; bitchy white trash 5th apartment manager in 4 months acting like I shouldn’t be upset when my house is under three inches of water and I can’t find one of the cats. I have rarely wanted to beat anyone’s ass more than I wanted to beat hers.

Anyway. Let’s move on to Friend Makin’ Monday, shall we? Since Kenlie has been busy, it’s being taken over by Sarah. The theme this week is “Randomly Getting to Know You.”

1. Introduce yourself in under 10 words.

Cranky, Cats, Cohabiting, Chocolate, Creative, Chips, Cheese, Contradictory, Crying, Crampy.

I would have added PMS to the list, but it didn’t start with a C and the alliteration was amusing me.

2. How did you find Friend Makin Mondays?

Through Hailey, I think.

3. Have you ever met any of your blog readers?

You mean other than my friends that I made/make read it? I did meet Lando (my current live-in partner, who doesn’t ever update his blog anymore and therefore I am not linking), back in the day when we were both blogging at Diaryland. I don’t think I’ve actually met anyone else in person, but I am FB/Twitter friends with several readers, and I’ve exchanged mix CD’s with a lot of them.

4. How many states have you visited?

I think 36, if you count the airport on a layover (which is really only two states: Colorado & Utah). I say it counts, especially since the Denver airport is directly responsible for introducing me to the wonders of Crocs, which you can now pry off my cold dead feet.

You disbelieve?

Yes, those are Jack Daniels pajama pants.

Yes, those are Jack Daniels pajama pants.

5. What did you have for lunch yesterday?

Cool Ranch Doritos and Chocolate Chip Little Debbies. I’m not even kidding. See the 11th word on #1, above.

6. How many different places have you lived in?

I think…6 cities (Flint, MI; Houston, TX; Pittsburgh, PA; Norman, OK; Naperville, IL; Oklahoma City, OK), 5 states (Michigan, Texas, Pennsylvania, Oklahoma, Illinois). I’m boring.

7. What’s your favorite color?

“She feels like kicking out all the windows/and setting fire to this life/she would paint everything about her/with colors bold and bright…” ~Dave Matthews

But seriously, if I have to pick…red. Followed very closely by bright turquoise.

8. Do you have any pets?

Three cats: Miles, Zooey, and Amelia. They’re being difficult right now and all I’m getting is a curled-up ball of cat, but here are some pictures from the last few months that you probably haven’t seen unless we’re friends on Facebook:

They like to snuggle.

They like to snuggle.

She does not like to snuggle with them and she's not entirely sure about snuggling with us.

She does not like to snuggle with them and she’s not entirely sure about snuggling with us.

9. What would your ideal job be?

Powerball winner/philanthropist. Cat-hugger. Broadway star. Advice columnist. Musician. Writer.

10. Do you have any tattoos?

Not yet…but I might get one for my 40th birthday. I have a whole Pinterest board called “Midlife Crisis.”

That is all. Carry on.

Song of the Day: “Poison” – Bell Biv Devoe
Today’s Time Waster: Pudding Pop. I wish they would bring back real pudding pops.
What I’m Craving: A raise. So we can live somewhere else and I can buy a new car.

Thunder wishes it could be the snow

This poem was on a poster on the wall in my 11th grade English classroom:

I am like shattered glass
Cutting those who touch me
I have been broken
I am hard and sharp
People can see through me.
They know I can hurt them
I am never confronted
I am always walked around.
– Lori Gauntlet

It resonated with me then, although I wasn’t quite sure why. Like many things from my youth, I now realize why.

I have always felt broken.

And I have always felt avoided and alone.

I hate it. I hate feeling like some stupid fucking poem, I hate being this melodramatic and this banal, I hate that I don’t have the confidence to do what I want to do, I hate that other people’s opinions even matter to me ever, but they do.

My parents fought a lot. Our house was always tense. When something good was happening, usually my dad would try to ruin it and my mom would finish the job by reacting to him. It didn’t matter what I did, it was not enough, it was never enough. I made myself physically ill because of the stress. I bottled things up inside because letting them out was never allowed. When they inevitably did come to the surface, the results were not pretty. They usually resulted in me screaming at one parent or both parents and then slamming a few doors.

I still do this. At work, I don’t slam doors, but I cry. I cry in the bathroom, I go for a walk and cry. At home I just go slam a door and cry.

I don’t want to cry anymore. I don’t even know why I cry at this point, it’s just my body’s response to anything. Frustration, mostly. I don’t want to yell and scream and be a bitch. I don’t want to have to scream to be heard.

I don’t even really want to talk anymore.

Or leave the house.

Or anything.

I buy clothes and makeup and none of these things make me feel pretty.

I don’t remember the last time I felt actually beautiful.

Or confident.

I don’t know what normal emotions are. I don’t know if the meds aren’t working. I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel about the dead end job I’m doing again and that I don’t want to be doing but I don’t know what else to do. There is an article about successful female business people in Marie Claire this month. I can’t make myself read it because I don’t take away tips, I take away jealousy, I take away knowing that I am as smart as any of these people but that I do not know how to make the step to where they are. I have surrounded myself, career-wise, with people who talk too goddamn much and don’t listen ever. I don’t know what to do with someone’s undivided attention. I don’t know how to act anymore, I don’t like talking to people anymore.

I feel like I am always being judged and found wanting.

I don’t feel joyful. I don’t really remember the last time I did.

Maybe college.


That was too long ago.

I can’t even write what I want to write because my brain is full of bad things. I feel like every opening paragraph sounds like a suicide note. I don’t really want to kill myself, but I’ve thought about trying. Just because then maybe someone would goddamn hear me screaming.

But I can’t do that. I can’t be that fucking stupid.

I think I make messes around me because I would feel bad making someone else clean them up. If things are a mess, I can’t kill myself because that’s not fair.

I am like shattered glass. I’m a broken glass that someone glued carefully back together so you almost can’t see the fracture lines. But they’re old fractures, and the cracks are coming back. They have been weakened by use.

I want to stop feeling this way.

I don’t even trust my own reactions anymore.


Song of the Day: “Kentucky Rain” – Elvis Presley
Today’s Time Waster: Attempting to communicate with other humans.
What I’m Craving: Frontal lobotomy. Or some cake. Whatever.

I wanna be sedated.

So, I can’t remember if I have talked about this shit on here before or not.

Anyway, starting in 2008, I have had off and on lower back issues: basically, a couple of bulging discs and an inflamed sacroiliac joint (where the base of the spine meets the pelvis). In October 2008, I was at work one day, doing whatever stupid bullshit law office job I was doing at the time, and all of a sudden, my back was in screaming, unrelenting pain. It wasn’t like “oh, I picked up something too heavy” or “oh, I should have known better than to move the couch by myself.” It felt like someone was poking me in the spinal cord with a hot poker. That night after work, I went to the minor emergency clinic. The doctor had me lay on the exam table and then lifted my right leg at a 90º angle. I thought I was going to die. Evidently, this is a normal test to see if the pain is muscular or discogenic. My reaction indicated that yes, one of the discs in my back *might* have a problem. He wrote me a couple of prescriptions and sent me on my way.

Up until this point, I never really thought much about pain. Sure, I’d had my wisdom teeth out, had a little stint in the hospital for mono where I was in pain, sprained my ankle god knows how many times, had a couple of fairly brutal ear infections in high school and again in my mid-20s, but those were bullshit. The doctor at the minor emergency gave me some 5/750 Lortabs. They might as well have been baby aspirin for all the good they did. The next morning, I called my regular doctor. He watched me gingerly limp into his office, said that the Lortabs were of COURSE not going to do shit, and gave me some Percocet. For a couple of weeks, I was marginally okay. A month, really. I went on vacation, and while my back wasn’t feeling 2000% awesome, I was able to walk around and do touristy and family-visiting things without too much incident. A few weeks later, though, around Thanksgiving, the pain was back with a vengeance. I went for an MRI. They confirmed the disc bulge. I was “laid off” right before Christmas and given 6 weeks severance. I was referred to pain management, but unfortunately, they couldn’t fit me in for anything until January.

In January, I went for the first epidural steroid injection. During this procedure, they sedate you, then shove six-inch-long needles into your spinal column. Well, they did the SECOND part. The first part didn’t really work so much. I had no idea that this was even a possibility. I’d been sedated for the wisdom teeth (don’t remember shit) and for an endoscopy because they thought I had gallstones and not mono (don’t remember much except the lead-lined cheerleader outfits the techs wore, which I thought for a while might have just been a hallucination because I was on IV Dilaudid for 2 days before they did this and it’s a little hazy, but it turns out the x-ray/CT techs do wear these outfits at all the procedures). It never occurred to me that when someone injected some drugs into a vein, it might not do anything.

So basically, I felt the needles in the spine. I was too shocked to even move, or scream. It was over pretty fast. After I went back to the recovery room, Lando went out in the hall with the nurse and chewed some ass. I had the same procedure done two weeks later (they usually do these in twos or threes), and while I remember it, I don’t remember FEELING it. A week or so after that (it takes a little time to heal after one of these, it pretty much feels like someone stabbed you a bunch of times and then kicked you while they were at it), the back pain was mostly gone. It flared up occasionally, but went away fast and wasn’t an issue.

A couple of years later, another disc decides to act up. This time, instead of the weird shooting pain and numbness on the right, it was on the left. Also, if I sat still for too long, it felt like someone was slowly heating up a small, hard object in my chair cushion. The disc was L5-S1, the lowest lumbar vertebrae/first sacral, so it’s kinda right at your buttcrack. I know y’all wanted to know that. The other pain was from the sacroiliac joint.

This time, the course of treatment was not so smooth. There was the MRI, where I got fat-shamed by the tech. He was a such an asswipe. “Do you have diabetes?” “Nope.” “Do you have high blood pressure?” “No.” “Are you SURE?” “(nonverbal-eat shit and die, cockmaster) “Yes, I’m sure.” Then, even though it was an open MRI (the first one I had was closed), he brings out this thing that looks like a giant metal ribcage. Basically, if you can fit under the cage, they get better images. I fit. Barely. If I didn’t take deep breaths. The test takes about half an hour, during which they tell you not to move, and even though it’s an “open” machine, it’s pretty claustrophobic with this ribcage bullshit on, and I can’t really breathe like I want to because it will dislodge it and then they have to start over. It was horrible, all the way around.

After reviewing the MRI, my regular doctor sends me to an orthopedic surgeon. After my prior experience with epidural injections, I’m not so anxious to start that shit up again. He sends me to physical therapy. It seemed to help at first, a little, but then it seemed to be making things worse. The MRI was in June. I don’t decide I’m really done with PT until early September, when I was in so much pain after a session that I just wanted to crawl into the fetal position and cry. Then he sends me to pain management. The doctor there decides to address the S-I joint issue first. This involves cortisone injections into the joint. They kinda sedate you a little, but they really weren’t that bad. However, they only worked for like 2 days each, and they were several weeks apart. I go back to the orthopedist in serious pain still, and he calls and bitches at the pain management doctor, so they do a couple of epidurals. The sedation isn’t great, but at least it keeps the top edge of the pain to a minimum. We schedule the last procedure for November, which is a nerve ablation on the joint. I guess the insurance requires two injections to diagnose the problem before they’ll pay for the ablation, which involves sticking a lot of needles in and then electrifying them to deaden the nerve endings that are causing the pain.

In the meantime, my gallbladder says “fuck you,” I end up on antibiotics, the ablation gets cancelled, Lando’s car transmission takes a shit, my gallbladder comes out before Christmas, and I have to put the last of my elderly cats to sleep on New Year’s Eve. Fuck you 2011, you go to hell and you die.

The ablation was not pleasant. The sedation for that is kind of sketchy, because they have to have you awake enough to make sure they’re hitting the right nerves. Also, the healing process, while the nerves actually die off, is brutal and involves two weeks plus of worse pain…but then, I was pretty much pain-free.

Until this August.

And it’s all back. The discs, the S-I joint, blah blah blah. So I had the ablation first this time, on September 11th. This time…the sedation didn’t really work at all. The anesthesiologist (I think they’re nurses for this procedure, but not positive) was this older lady, and even though the doctor and I both told her that I’m not easy to knock out, she doesn’t believe us. NO ONE ever believes you when you say you’re hard to sedate or that pain meds don’t work. She finally zapped me with some more Fentanyl, but by then, I’d already dealt with 15 minutes of electrified needles.

Cut to October…23rd? Yes. Time for an epidural. Doctor tells anesthesiologist to turn up the juice, which she does…she gives me a double dose of Versed. I get a little talky for a few minutes, but by the time the needles are going in, I’m stone sober and crying, and by the time they get some more juice going, it’s basically over. I go back to the recovery room in a non-good state, and they bring me some drugs and some juice.

Today, I emailed the doctor’s office and said that I was dreading the procedure I have scheduled for Wednesday and I really don’t want to do that shit sober again, so can he please at least give me some Valium for before.

No response. If I don’t get a response tomorrow morning, I’m going to have to call and get all ass-chewy.

Apparently, this anesthesia resistance is more common in redheads (they have actually done studies on this) and also has a genetic component. When I talked to my dad, he said he has had the same issues…needs 3x the novocaine at the dentist, Versed & Fentanyl basically wear off in 30 seconds, blah blah. My dad isn’t a redhead, so who knows.

Also, in addition to all this bullshit, the back windshield is falling out of my car. Kids, the convertible will look shiny. Dudes will want to sex your car. But IT IS NOT WORTH IT unless you have a garage to keep it in and it’s not your primary vehicle. The fuckers leak. They leak in the rain, and they REALLY leak if you do something dumb right after you buy it like run it through a gas station car wash. And when you put the top down, it stresses the seal around the glass in the back and then it falls out. (This is not the first time, but the first time, the top got slashed by vandals and it was fixed in the process of replacing the top.) So we have to drive to goddamn Edmond (which is at least 30 minutes away from here), drop off the car, and leave there in enough time to be to the hospital by 8:15 a.m. Then I won’t have a car for 2 days. Assuming, of course, that the convertible guys are not full of shit.

If I were the sort to bet (which I’m not, because my luck is pretty fucking bad), I wouldn’t count on my car being done till at least Friday.

*** UPDATE ***

Had epidural today. Explained to the nurse (who thankfully was the same one from last time) that she needed to keep the drugs rolling because apparently they are the only thing my body metabolizes fast. OF COURSE it’s fun drugs. Sigh. Anyway, I also got my pregame Valium, which did improve my mood. I was still slightly nervous, but at least I wasn’t a total basket case. However, I am now pissed off at my goddamn doctor’s office, because the nurse who handles the refills on the prescriptions is being non-helpful. It will be 30 days on Sunday since my last refill, as it should be. I’ve been hoarding, because they always get goddamn picky, even when it’s not anything that GOOD, but the pain after the last injections was awful for a week and I couldn’t not take them. But she’s telling me that you *always* have to make an appointment for a refill (which is a lie, because this same chick just called it into the pharmacy last time); they only make appointments on Wednesdays and Thursdays; etc. Okay, but you also have to sign this stupid contract that says no refill requests on Fridays, no refills on procedure days (Wednesdays), no other doctors can give you drugs, they can make you pee in a cup, basically everything they can do to make everyone in pain feel like a fucking addict even though THAT IS WHY THE SHIT EXISTS. Thanks, hillbillies and teenagers.

I didn’t think I was going to have a car on Thursday, but it turns out I would have bet wrong, because they called today and said it was ready. I asked if the glue was dry, and they said they actually use staples instead of glue. I don’t really care what they use, as long as the window stops leaking and doesn’t fall the hell out. So I call the doctor’s office back and ask for an appointment tomorrow, and of course there’s not one but call back Friday. When they don’t give refills.

Jesus Tap Dancing Christ.

I suppose this could all be worse, but it’s just frustrating. And I don’t even want to go to work tomorrow, because it hurts worse the 2nd day, but if I don’t go, I will get shit from my boss, who has been acting like an entitled dicknugget lately and I’ve had about enough of that shit. He claims to hate certain assholes we used to work for, but like most people in abusive relationships, he is perpetuating the cycle and I’m done with that. (1) He is not the only one with things besides work on his mind. (2) There’s no need for this shit. He wants my “A” game, but he knows and I know that the “B-minus” game is still better than the rest of the office. He is also one of those “I am too macho for doctors and aspirin” types. Well, son, I’m not. So go fuck yourself. (Interestingly, he is also a member of the group of dudes that give each other shit about what they eat for lunch…like “I’m eating fruit and yogurt…what are YOU eating?” The guys are way worse than the women in my office. The women (at least the ones I usually see in the break room) are eating tacos and hot wings and pasta. It’s usually the reverse.) I’m done with entitlement, and if he doesn’t realize this in short order, we’re going to have a problem.

Song of the Day: Ylvis – “The Fox (What Does the Fox Say)”
Today’s Time Waster: Why the above is stuck in my damn head.
What I’m Craving: A new car or some good drugs.

No one likes to be let down. (FMM)

Why hello everyone. This past week was filled with bullshit. One of our kitties, Miles, does not like one of our other kitties, Amelia. Miles is a big, loudmouth boy cat, and he’s normally very sweet and snuggly. He loves our other girl cat, Zooey, even though she’s kind of mean to him, but he sees Amelia as an intruder to be attacked. I have no idea why. When we got him, we had three elderly female cats, and he never started any shit with them, and he adopted Zooey from the moment I brought her home, but even though Amelia is the most shy, scaredy baby, he just goes after her. We keep them separated….Miles & Zooey live in the living area, and Amelia lives in the bedroom. Amelia is fine with this arrangement. She’s a pretty independent sort…she likes to watch the birds and the bugs outside, she likes to play with her toys, she likes us but mostly because we give her snacks.

So anyway. Lando accidentally didn’t shut her door all the way, and Miles got in the bedroom…and tagged her ear, and then she pooped and peed a lot, and then she went and hid in the closet and wouldn’t come out. Miles was not very repentant. Therefore, we had to wash all the blankets and pillowcases and give Amelia lots of snacks and canned food to make her happy again. All seems to be well, but I really wish he would quit being a little butthole. I mean, she’s like half his size and doesn’t even fight back.

Bonus Cat Pics:

Miles looks vicious, right?

Zooey likes boxes.

Amelia is my sweet little derp.

Then, on top of that, my computer monitor decided to quit working, so there’s another $246.99 I wasn’t planning on spending. Grrr. Our “backup” monitor is this tiny 17″ piece of crap that I’ve had for at least 9 years, and I don’t even think I have an adapter to make it plug in to my computer. Plus, I’m used to my 27″. I have bad eyesight, ya’ll. The new monitor is now in place and works fine.

I spent most of the weekend taking naps. Since my insomnia has flared up again, I’m living on too little sleep, which I make up for by over-caffeinating…it’s a vicious cycle. We did go out to dinner for Lando’s dad’s birthday/Father’s Day. The restaurant is one of those vaguely hipster brewpubs…they have classic comfort food, but it’s all served on weird-shaped plates and arranged just so. I had chicken fried steak, and it was ok, but they put like 2 little dots of gravy on it. Bitch, please. The gravy is IMPORTANT. I asked for more gravy and got this little tiny ramekin. Those are for DIPPING SAUCE, not GRAVY. I guess next time I’ll order something more fancy.

Anyway, on to the Friend-Makin’ Monday festivities, hosted as usual by Kenlie at All the Weigh. This week’s topic is “Just Wondering” and is as random as I feel today. If you decide to play, either answer on your own blog and leave comments for me and for Kenlie, or answer in my comments if you’re not the blogging type. Be sure to check out the comments on Kenlie’s site, too, for more people to visit!

1. Do you wear glasses and/or contacts?

Contacts whenever possible, but sometimes when my allergies are bad, I have to wear glasses. I also sometimes get things stuck under my contacts, like cat fur (my cat Zooey is generally all up in my grill) or eye makeup (the glitter liners from Sephora are the worst offenders, but sometimes the Urban Decay shadows or whatever shitty mascara I was forced to buy because they were out of my brand are culprits).

2. Do you have summer vacation plans? If so, where are you going?

Not so far…I just started a new job, so I don’t have any vacation time yet. Maybe in the fall.

3. What is your favorite food to eat for breakfast?

Donuts! (Especially the chocolate frosted kind with cream filling.) I’m also fond of the little sausage rolls they have at the donut place. (There are two independent donut shops close to us, and they both have those little sausage rolls. They also have big sausage rolls, but I like the little ones better.) (That’s NOT what she said.)

4. Do you enjoy window shopping?

Yes, I kind of do. I enjoy buying things more, but sometimes, if I’m having a bad day, I can just go wander around and touch things at somewhere like Ross or Marshall’s. I cannot wander around Ulta or Sephora, though, because I will buy things. I’m also a fan of internet window-shopping…I tend to put things in my cart a lot and not buy them. Note: sometimes if you do this, and leave it for a day or two, the retailer will send you a coupon code.

5. What is your favorite candle scent?

I actually like one from Walmart called Cranberry Mandarin…it’s good for all seasons. I also like the Yankee Candles Buttercream, but it makes me hungry.

6. If you had to choose between going to a zoo or an aquarium, which one would you pick?

Aquarium. It’s inside, and I love watching all the fish. I don’t like outside. I especially don’t like outside in the summer…there are bugs and it’s too hot and you smell poop all day.

7. How many times do you plan to exercise this week?

That all depends…exercise what? Hehe.

8. Do you speak another language fluently?

No…I took French in high school and college, and I wasn’t bad at it, but my skills are not what they were. I can still sometimes read it. I can also generally pronounce things in French, Spanish, Italian, German, and Latin…thank you, five years of voice lessons and god knows how many years of choir where singing in English was just not what the cool kids did.

9. What are you currently reading?

I recently finished

    Tiny Beautiful Things

, by Cheryl Strayed, which is one of the best books I’ve read in a long time…it’s just stunning, I can’t even explain. It’s part advice column, part memoir. I am also reading the “Ender’s Game” series by Orson Scott Card – I’m currently on “Xenocide.” I liked the first one, the second took me a while to get into but was good once I did, and the third is dragging ass but I’m trying to get through it.

10. What are you looking forward to most in the coming week?

Not much, really. I need to go grocery shopping and do laundry and my insomnia is back with a vengeance. Maybe I’ll go with “once I go grocery shopping I can make more chocolate cake.”

Song of the Day: Jack Johnson – “Flake”
Today’s Time Waster: Sleepy animals. (Not just cats, for all you dog people…)
What I’m Craving: A maid.

Top pulled down and radio on, baby. (FMM)

I hadn’t done friend-makin’ Monday in a couple of weeks, so I decided that I’d get back into the habit. This weekend thus far has been fairly uneventful – Lando had to go in to work the last couple of days, since they had a big project going on, so I’ve mostly been doing laundry and playing stupid games on my Kindle like Gem Twist 1 & 2. I also read a little, made some cake, got some groceries, and spent some time dicking around on Pinterest. (My name has an extra “o”…either some jackass ganked my username, or I signed up for Pinterest and forgot the email and password under which I signed up. Knowing me, it’s probably the latter.)

One thing I don’t get about Pinterest: what’s with the “PIN NOW READ LATER” instructions? If I am going to pin something, I want to know what the hell I’m pinning. This doesn’t necessarily apply to pretty pictures, but anything with household tips or craft instructions or beauty tips, I would like to know what it says before I suggest other people look at it. Does it take that long to click a link and skim it? I guess this goes back to my longing for the old days of blogging when people were just randomly talking about whatever instead of everything being all sponsored and themed. That’s not to say I don’t enjoy reading about specific topics, but I also like reading about non-specific topics.

I have read in several blogs lately that people were all methodical about starting their blog, or that they were nervous about starting a blog, and it just seemed kind of weird to me. But again, I think that’s the difference between blogging 10 years ago and blogging now: back then, almost everyone was anonymous. You might get a first name, but you might not. Now, a lot of people are using their actual names. I guess that’s good, in the sense that you don’t get to be a dick behind the curtain of anonymity – but it’s not good, in the sense that people are more guarded about what they share and therefore less likely to post things of a deeply personal nature. One quotation from C.S. Lewis that has always resonated with me is, “We read to know we’re not alone.” I know that I’ve read some blogs that DID make me feel less alone, that made me realize I’m not the only dork-ass weirdo, that made me see that there are other people who suffer with depression and anxiety and feel lost and alone sometimes.

Gosh, this was not the intro I planned for the topic today. Oops. The topic for FMM is “Summer Fun.” (Maybe my problem is that I hate summer. I really think I have the reverse of the usual winter Seasonal Affective Disorder.) On to the questions! If you haven’t played before, this is hosted by Kenlie at All the Weigh. If you’re stopping by, please say hi & link to your own post, if you did one. I love comments. Also, link back on Kenlie’s comments.

1. What is your favorite summer fruit?
Canteloupe. My gramma calls them “mushmelons.”

2. Do you know how to swim?
Yes. I grew up in Houston, and we practically lived at the pool in the summer. I was even on swim team for a little while in junior high. I was never very good at the backstroke, because I would run into the lane markers like every 2 feet.

3. Do you prefer sun or snow?
I will have to go with sun, simply because there are few things I hate more than driving in the snow. I don’t like hot, though. The temperatures are creeping toward 90-something here, and I am not happy about this. We’ve actually had a longer spring than usual this year, though, which has been nice. By July, I’ll be ready to hibernate in my air-conditioned cave until October.

4. What temperature do you like most inside your home?
68. Summer or winter. This makes for cheap-ass electric bills in the winter and obscene ones in the summer.

5. Is it humid where you live?
Not really, most of the time. The people here think it is, but they don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about. In Houston, it’s so humid and hot in the summer that you can’t even breathe. Sadly, though, my just-naturally-wavy-enough-to-be-annoying hair likes the humidity – it’s all shiny and bouncy when I go visit the family in Houston.

6. What is your favorite food to put on the grill?
We don’t actually have a grill, since we live in an apartment…although we do have a little George Foreman. I love steak. And seafood…grilled scallops, mmm. Also, fajitas never taste quite the same unless they’re made on the grill.

7. Do you prefer to wear a one-piece or two-piece swim suit?
One piece for actually swimming. Two for lounging about drinking things with umbrellas in them, since it’s easier when you have to go to the bathroom. Plus, I have a long torso, so the tankini-like 2 pieces are rarely long enough and I feel like I’m pulling them down all day. One day maybe I’ll get brave enough for a fatkini…

8. What is your favorite summer drink?
Lynchburg lemonade. (Jack Daniels, sprite, sweet & sour mix, triple sec.)

9. Do you prefer the pool or the ocean?
For swimming? The pool. Preferably one that no screaming children have been near, ever. For wading and enjoying the view? The ocean, hands down. I love the ocean, and I miss living near one.

10. What are you looking forward to most over the summer?
Wearing all my fun summer dresses to my new job. I start tomorrow. It’s another stupid law office job, but it’s working for an old boss I actually like, and he swears it’s a lower-stress environment and that my workload will be reasonable. I’ve heard that story before, so we’ll see. It’s a paycheck, which will be good, and it’s getting out of the house, which will also be good. I’m just not very domestic, despite recent forays into baking. (I need to make some bread today. And I am going to try to restrain myself from making more chocolate cake.)

I’m also looking forward to Gentlemen of the Road in September with my BFF.

Song of the Day: “King of the Road” – Roger Miller
Today’s Time Waster: Book suggestions based on books you like.
What I’m Craving: A breakfast burrito.

Animal, Vegetable, or Mineral? (FMM)

Greetings, earthlings. This past week added to the deluge of suck that is my life. Lando’s mom is moving back to Oklahoma, after being safely ensconced 3000 miles away for the duration of our relationship (7 years). She listens about as well as my father does, so it’s exhausting to be around her for any length of time. Apparently, she’ll be here at the end of this week. She has no job lined up, no apartment, no car…Lando’s poor sister. She’s the one who is going to have to have mommy staying with her (we’ve made it clear that there’s no room). His mom actually asked his sister if we would be interested in getting some sort of house with her.


The only way I would live with any parents is if they were incapacitated or unable to care for themselves, and even then, there’s a nursing home and an assisted living community down the street from us. My tolerance level for family togetherness is about 4 days. This includes my family members as well, even the ones I get along with.

It also kind of sucks that she’s coming here so soon, because we were going to babysit our niece this weekend. We were looking forward to getting to have some play time with her without having to share.

I can’t even think of a cute transition to segue into the FMM section of today’s post, so here it is: Twenty Questions, courtesy of Kenlie at All the Weigh. If you stop by, please say hi…comments make me happy. Also, if you participate, link up here and at Kenlie’s place. Now, without further ado:

1. Share something that you enjoy doing when you’re alone.

2. What do you plan to eat next?
I don’t know. I really want frozen yogurt in a waffle cone, though.

3. When did you first travel on a plane? Where did you go?
I was a year old, and it was from Michigan to Houston, Tx, because my family was moving there.

4. Do you currently have a crush on someone? If so, share a few of the reasons why.
Not really.

5. List one thing that disgusts you that probably wouldn’t bother someone else.
Pink food. And bananas.

6. If you could buy a new car tomorrow (and money was no object) what would you buy?

An Infiniti G Coupe. Not the most super-expensive car, but if I had a super awesome car, someone would just steal it. This is luxurious without being flashy.










7. Who was the first person who broke your heart?
This dickhead I dated in college. Not typing his name. I am afraid that, like saying “Voldemort” in the last Harry Potter book, it would call him to my location.

8. If you could spend the night with a celebrity tonight, who would it be?
I’m going to go with a not-sex-you-up choice, and say Ashley Fink – she’s hilarious, and I want to hang out with her.

9. Are you a morning person or a night person?
A night person. Mornings are dumb.

10. What’s your favorite board game?
Trivial Pursuit

11. Can you play an instrument? If so, what do you play?
Not really – I did take piano lesssons once upon a time, but now it’s mostly in the “I know which keys are which and still sorta remember a song or two.”

12. What is the last thing you ate?
A frozen burrito (cooked, obviously). I wasn’t in the mood to make decisions and/or cook something.

13. Do you wear a watch?
Not anymore…I used to, but it started making me itch and getting in my way, so I stopped. I’ve always been a little allergic to metals, but the older I get, the worse it gets. Pretty much anything but 14K gold and implant-grade steel/titanium make me itch. I have some really cute silver rings, but I can’t wear them all the time because of the itching/redness. Even the clasps on necklaces sometimes bother me.

14. Do you go to church?

15. Do you ever wish on stars?
No. I sometimes sing that song to the cats, though.

16. Have you ever been on a motorcycle?
No. Motorcycles were a definite DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT when I was growing up…my dad was in a bad motorcycle accident in high school, so that was one pretty stringent rule. I kind of want to drive one once, but I would never be comfortable riding on the back of one. I have a hard time even riding in the car when someone else is driving.

17. What is the last thing you purchased?
I think “Cryptonomicon” by Neal Stephenson for Kindle…it was on sale for $1.99. It may not be the next thing I read, though… I have a lot of books on my to-do list, and my attention span for them seems a little lacking at the moment.

18. How big is your bed?

19. What size shoe do you wear?
Mostly a 10, but sometimes a 9 1/2 or an 11. I really wish 10 1/2 was a size that existed…I don’t know why it doesn’t, but most brands don’t carry it.

20. What are you looking forward to most in the coming week?
Having a “day of debauchery” with my friend. I think she mentioned the words “drinking at lunch” and “smoking some of my good weed” and “bad reality TV.”

Song of the Day: “We Built This City” – Starship (I think it’s because I used the word “hoopla” in a game of Words with Friends…and of course, that’s a lyric, so that’s where my brain went. Sorry. Heh.)

Today’s Time Waster: Words with Friends – my username is goingloopy, so if you want to play, invite!

What I’m Craving: Ice cream.